Keeping Friends Out of Your Relationships

During the height of the pandemic, divorce rates and filed separations were through the roof.

The pandemic brought out the best and worst in people due to unforeseen events.

But surprisingly, NEW relationships panned out very well during the isolation period.

“According to a Monmouth University poll that came out in 2020, almost 60 percent of Americans who were partnered up reported that they were extremely satisfied with their relationship (a similar but even higher number than in past national polls).”

My theory is that with restrictions and people having more time to themselves, their home life, hobbies, etc., they got to appreciate the beauty of their budding relationships. By getting the opportunity to spend true quality time with their partners and not having any interference or pressures from the outside world, they surely strengthened their bonds with one another, and trust probably grew quicker than in past relationships before the pandemic. Strangers in this environment could certainly become the best of friends quickly, and lovers could have time to engage in in-depth conversations about the future and enjoy simple things again, such as no noisy deadlines or outings to attend. This left time for romantic evenings at home and cuddling.

Maintaining a healthy and successful romantic relationship requires careful consideration of various factors. One aspect that often goes overlooked is the involvement of friends and the outside world in the relationship. While friends can provide valuable support and advice, there are times when it is best to keep them at a distance until their input is truly needed. In this blog post, we will explore the reasons why it is beneficial to keep friends out of your relationships until necessary.

Privacy and Boundaries: keeping friends

One of the primary reasons to keep friends out of your relationship is to maintain privacy and establish healthy boundaries. Intimate relationships require a certain level of confidentiality and trust between partners. Involving friends unnecessarily can lead to unwanted interference and potential breaches of privacy. By keeping your relationship private, you can foster a sense of intimacy and protect the sanctity of your bond.

Personal Growth and Problem-Solving:

Every relationship encounters challenges and conflicts. It is during these times that personal growth and problem-solving skills are put to the test. By relying solely on your abilities and those of your partner, you can develop a stronger bond and enhance your problem-solving skills together. Involving friends too early in the process may hinder personal growth and prevent you from fully exploring solutions as a couple.

Avoiding Bias and Misinterpretation:

Friends, no matter how well-intentioned, often bring their biases and perspectives into the equation. Their advice may be influenced by their experiences, which may not necessarily align with your unique situation. Additionally, communication between partners can be easily misinterpreted when filtered through the lens of a third party. By keeping friends out of your relationship until necessary, you can ensure that your decisions are based on your understanding and needs.

Strengthening Trust and Communication:

Trust and communication are the pillars of a healthy relationship. By keeping friends out of your relationship until needed, you can focus on building trust and open lines of communication with your partner. This allows for a deeper understanding of each other’s needs, desires, and challenges. Strengthening these aspects of your relationship will ultimately lead to a stronger and more fulfilling connection.

While friends can be a valuable source of support and guidance, it is important to recognize the benefits of keeping them out of your other relationships until necessary. By maintaining privacy, fostering personal growth, avoiding bias, and strengthening trust and communication, you can create a solid foundation for a successful and fulfilling partnership. Remember, your relationship is unique, and it is ultimately up to you and your partner to navigate its complexities together.