I remember when I was in high school, a girlfriend of mine would borrow my brand new clothes and then, to suck up to the popular girls, she would try to buy their friendship by giving away my new clothes to them and pretending they were hers. When I confronted her, she became very defensive and combative towards me, as if I had done something wrong. Looking back, I now see that she was so desperate for the popular girls’ approval that she was willing to sabotage a real friendship with me by giving away my clothing. I was a nice person, and unfortunately, she would never face any consequences from me for her actions. Her need for acceptance had only grown bigger over the years.
As she grew into a young adult, she repeated these behaviors and continued to strive for belonging by putting her true self on a shelf. It was a shame that she had once been accepted by me and a few others, but that was not enough for her ego or her definition of value. When I was younger, I couldn’t understand this, but as an older woman now and a mother, I can forgive her because she was obviously struggling inside with her identity and the need for acceptance.
From time to time, we will all fall into the trap of trying to impress the wrong people or doing things that are not within our usual compass in order to fit in. The best thing we can do is be more compassionate toward each other and realize that we all want to be loved, accepted, and valued. Creating an environment where others feel at ease and can be themselves around you is a way to avoid fake behavior from those who come into your life.
In our quest for acceptance and belonging, it is not uncommon for individuals to put on a facade and act fake to fit in with certain social groups or situations. While this behavior may seem like a means to an end, it often leads to frustration and annoyance for both the individuals involved and those around them. In this blog, we will explore the reasons behind this pretense and shed light on why it can be so exasperating.
Fear of Rejection: act fake
One of the primary reasons people act fake is the fear of rejection. They believe that by conforming to societal norms or adopting a certain persona, they will be more readily accepted by others. However, this fear-driven behavior often results in a lack of authenticity and genuine connections.
Society often imposes certain expectations and standards, which can create immense pressure to conform. People may feel compelled to act fake in order to fit into specific social circles or gain approval from their peers. This pressure can be overwhelming and lead to a loss of individuality.
Inauthenticity Breeds Discomfort:
When someone is being fake, it becomes evident to those around them. The dissonance between their true self and the persona they project creates an uncomfortable atmosphere. Genuine connections are built on trust and authenticity, and when that is lacking, it can be frustrating for others who value sincerity.
Difficulty in Building Meaningful Relationships:
Acting fake hinders the development of genuine relationships. When individuals are not true to themselves, it becomes challenging for others to truly know and understand them. This superficiality can prevent the formation of deep connections and meaningful friendships.
Maintaining a facade requires constant effort and energy. People who act fake often find themselves emotionally drained as they struggle to keep up with the charade. This exhaustion can lead to feelings of dissatisfaction and a lack of fulfillment in their relationships.
While the desire to fit in is a natural human instinct, acting fake to achieve this goal often leads to frustration and annoyance. Authenticity and genuine connections are the foundation of meaningful relationships. Embracing our true selves and accepting others for who they are can create a more harmonious and fulfilling social environment. Let us strive to be genuine, accepting, and understanding, fostering an atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable being their authentic self.