Adults Get Bullied, Too
In school, we all knew who the snobs were. Everyone had a specific table at lunch that labeled their status, and there was no confusion. Believe it or not, even as we age, we still encounter adult snobs. For example, at work with our co-workers and/or bosses or our kids’ school groups with other parents. We often want to avoid these social cliques and walk away, but many times, it’s not an option. We can’t afford to lose our jobs or embarrass our children.
Adults have a busy lifestyle and not much time to socialize. The people we spend the most time with are our co-workers and the parents of the friends our kids make. When we come across an adult snob, they leave us feeling deflated and and unworthy.
Stats show that adults get bullied every year by co-workers and peers. About 1/3 if adults are bullied, which is about 48.6 million Americans.
Adult snobs are individuals who display an exaggerated sense of superiority or entitlement, often looking down upon others based on their perceived social status, achievements, or interests. They tend to prioritize their own opinions and preferences while dismissing or belittling those of others. Identifying these individuals can help us avoid unnecessary conflicts and maintain a positive social environment.
Spotting the Signs of Adult Snobs
Judgmental Attitude
Adult snobs tend to be highly critical of others, constantly passing judgment on their choices, appearance, or lifestyle. They may express disdain or make condescending remarks, undermining the choices and opinions of those around them.
Exclusivity
Snobs often exhibit a strong desire to associate only with individuals they deem “worthy” or of a similar social standing. They may actively avoid mingling with people they consider beneath them, creating an exclusive social circle. An example would be someone who only will give their time to Ivy League graduates, people who are hold a high social status, or people who hold a prestigious title at their company.
Materialistic Behavior
Adult snobs often place great importance on material possessions and use them as a measure of their own worth. They may flaunt their wealth or possessions, seeking validation and admiration from others. I call these people the show-offs; they need constant validation about the items they buy or the lavish vacations they show you on social media.
Intellectual Arrogance
These individuals may display an inflated sense of intellectual superiority, dismissing differing viewpoints or ideas without considering them. They may engage in intellectual one-upmanship, attempting to prove their intelligence or knowledge at the expense of others.
Lack of Empathy
Adult snobs often struggle to empathize with others’ experiences or emotions. They may dismiss or trivialize others’ struggles, showing little interest in understanding different perspectives. I find these people to be very surface level and not people you want to tell your secrets because snobs could care less.
Adult Snobs Constant Need for Validation
Snobs often seek constant validation and admiration from others. They may fish for compliments or engage in self-promotion to boost their ego and maintain their perceived superiority. I call some of them the one-uppers; they constantly have to always be above you or anyone to feel good.
How to Deal with Adult Snobs
Maintain Confidence
It’s essential to remember your own worth and not let snobbish behavior affect your self-esteem. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who appreciate you for who you are. Also, remember, just because someone else may brag about their own greatness, doesn’t it’s mean you aren’t great. Let them be your fuel to be great.
Avoid Engaging in Arguments
Engaging in arguments with adult snobs often leads to frustration and further validation of their behavior. Instead, choose to disengage or redirect the conversation to more positive topics.
Practice Empathy Towards Adult Snobs
While it may be challenging, try to understand the underlying insecurities or motivations that drive snobbish behavior. This can help you approach interactions with compassion and diffuse potential conflicts. If you find out the root of some of their behavior or what makes them tick you can then avoid it.
Set Boundaries
Establish clear boundaries and communicate your expectations when dealing with snobbish individuals. Let them know that their behavior is not acceptable and that you will not tolerate being belittled or disrespected.
Identifying adult snobs and understanding their behavior can help us navigate social interactions more effectively. By recognizing the signs and implementing strategies to deal with them, we can foster healthier relationships and create a more inclusive and accepting environment. Everyone deserves respect and kindness, regardless of their social status or achievements. Also, keep in mind, it’s healthy to find individuals like you who share similar interests, hobbies, and ways of thinking in order to find support and ultimately be yourself.